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Three Things to Think About Before You Start Dating Again*
I decided to take 2020 and make it my year. What this means is I’m doing more things for me. I want to be more than just LM’s mum. I want to be my own person again. And part of that is braving the world of dating again. I seem to go through fads with this. I download a few apps, spend a few weeks on them, maybe have a date or two. Then something awful happens, like a guy is rude or stands me up and I delete them all again. The hassle is too much and I have enough on my plate without doubting my self worth over…
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Dating After a Domestic Abuse
It’s been forever since I sat down and wrote a cathartic piece where I haven’t planned out what I’m going to say, where I just sit and write until I feel like I’ve said all I wanted to say. I’ve had points for this post in my head for the past few weeks and I knew I wanted to write it since I’ve shared all the highs and lows of the last four years on this blog. You’ve all come along with me on my recovery from my last relationship, I’ve shared points of the domestic abuse here that I’ve never ever said out loud to anyone, so I feel…
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How It Feels to Never Be The One
It’s been a long time since I’ve started typing without knowing where a post is going. But today I decided I just really want to vent to a faceless person rather than have a one on one conversation. I don’t want sympathy, I don’t want someone telling me that how I feel is utter crap. I don’t want someone trying to change my mind. I just want to empty my head in hope that I can function better on a day to day basis. This weekend while miles away from home my first ever crush and first ever heartbreak walked past me at SFCC. He didn’t even recognise me, or…
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Why I’m Not Seeing 50 Shades of Grey This Valentines Day (or ever)
Here is a small warning that this post may contain some triggers as I discuss domestic abuse. It has taken me a few days of serious thought as to whether or not I wanted to post about this as I have only lightly touched on this subject in the past. But this week I have seen people I love and respect talking about how much they would “love a man like Christian Grey” I just need to get my story out. It’s been almost three years since I read the books so please forgive me if I don’t get al the facts 100%. This isn’t a post about how badly…
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Dating & The Devil – A #3dates3mths Update
I had a different kind of post to go up this evening but after the events of this week that some of you know about, I felt like for a cathartic experience after a week of bad luck, I needed to address this. I’m going to write about how my last relationship still influences my thoughts and feelings about future relationships. I’m hoping by writing about it, it will put a stop to my bad luck and help me look more positively about the rest of the year. I’m so terrified of the terrible events of 2013, spilling over into 2014. Until this week the year was going so well,…
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A Single Girl’s Valentines – #3Dates3Mths
“Twenty something girl from the north, would like to meet a twenty something guy. Preferably with dark hair, eyes and a winning smile. Great sense of humour is necessary. Must be okay with the fact she sings badly to Disney and show tunes while doing the housework, bonus if he would try to join in. Must like nights in more than nights out, Chinese food, traveling and doing the washing up (because she doesn’t).“ After almost two years I finally feel ready to return to the world of dating. The scary world of dating that is and to help me with this I’ve agreed to take part in the #3Dates3Mnths…
