The Impact PTSD Can Have On Relationships*

The number of people who are suffering from PTSD is on the increase. This is the case in many countries. That is partly because the condition is now better understood. But, exactly why the numbers are rising so fast is not fully understood.

What is clear is that the condition has a significant and negative impact on the person suffering from it and those around them. With this in mind, today I thought I would answer the question of how does PTSD affect relationships? Once you recognize the impact it has,  that is to say, identify the problem, you have taken the first step towards making things better.

Trust issues

Many people who suffer from PTSD end up with serious trust issues. Often, the person with this mental health condition has seen terrible things. They are only too well aware of what people are capable of. Faced with this reality and having spent so long in situations where they could not afford to rely on anyone, they end up struggling to trust anyone at all, including family members.

Difficulty in maintaining close bonds

Going through similar experiences and doing things together is part of what bonds us together. It creates common reference points that enable us to connect on a deeper level. The more important and vital those experiences are the more impact they have on our relationships.

Usually, people who suffer from PTSD have gone through things without their partner being there. Their view of the world is now quite different from those that they left at home. It is hard to feel close to someone when you are looking at life in radically different ways.

Worse than that, every time the person who is suffering from PTSD speaks to their loved ones about their experiences the fact that they do not understand is underlined. So, initially, it can feel like talking only makes things worse.

Guilt that leads to a sufferer feeling unworthy of love

Many PTSD sufferers have faced situations where no matter how hard they tried they were unable to help or save everyone. They are left feeling guilty about not being able to do more. In particular if they feel that they made mistakes.

Over time, that guilt can deepen, and feelings of worthlessness begin to overwhelm them. They feel that they are not worthy of love and worry that they will let their family and friends down. In time, they end up pushing people away.

Seeking help is essential

The key to minimizing the impact that PTSD has on relationships is seeking help at as early a stage as possible. It is best if both parties do so. But sometimes the person suffering from the symptoms will refuse to seek help, at least initially. In that situation, it is wise for the other person to still do so.

Where to find out more

If you would like to find out more about PTSD and the impact it has on relationships, this paper is a good starting point. It was written with the families of veterans in mind. But, the advice it contains applies equally to non-military families.