WLTM TDH with GSOH* – #3dates3mths 2nd Month Update
I’m not stranger to online dating a friend talked me into signing up for agencies last year and I have managed to make one friend through it. Yes, in a year I’ve managed to maintain contact with one guy. I was hoping Just Singles would at least add a few more to that list, since I actually suck at meeting people in person. I say people but what I actually mean is I suck meeting men in person. Especially if I find them attractive. If I’m attracted to them I pretty much need to be drunk before I can pluck up the courage to hold a conversation with them. I’m brilliant at eye contact though… sorry, I’m on a tangent.
Right, my biggest problem has been, like it always is, is my location. I live in a small town, miles from everywhere and unfortunately that meant receiving messages from people that made my life miserable in school. Mainly because they don’t recognise me so they think it’s appropriate to hit on me, but it also means I won’t even entertain them. Also, as Just Singles is a fairly new dating website, it doesn’t have a lot of choice of people from this area that I don’t recognise. My nearest cities are over an hour away on a train, which can get expensive, but it also means I can only go during the day when my mum is either working, or reluctant to babysit. I’m now less flexible which of course, puts any potential dates off. Sigh.
Just Singles have many branches in their main website too, so there is something for everyone. Just recently they were posting on twitter about a Just Gingers, hoping to entice Prince Harry to join! There is even a single parents branch, that over time I may just get up the nerve to join.
When I think about it, dating websites are no different when it comes to trying to meet someone in a bar after 11pm. You still get the same cheesy chat up lines “Are you okay? Because I’m sure you just fell from heaven” etc, but the difference when it comes to a dating website, you have the ability to press block. Which for me, is a bonus as I’m usually too awkward to tell a guy to “fuck off” if they’re too much in my face (thankfully I have wonderful friends who do this for me!) I think online dating is a safety net for me, it’s comfortable and I don’t need to worry about how I look. At the moment I’m still very much walled in, I still don’t want to trust and I still very much have a hard time believing there could be someone out there who will treat me right. Being a member of Just Singles has been a great way for me to safely dip my toe back into the dating world, to find out what sort of a guy I am looking for (and remind me which ones I’m not) without really putting myself out there. And I have to be honest, I’ve needed this. Especially as I’m 100% positive I make a pretty bad first impression!
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Hayley Warren
I seriously give up on all types of online dating. We should just get cats and be happy with them.