Three Things To Consider When Starting a BDSM Journey*

After one whole year in limbo, there is hopefully some light at the end of the tunnel and it’ll be time to start navigating a world after lockdown. For a lot of people that has been months spent on their own, and it’s natural for them to be looking at ways and even new ways to make a connection, be it for love or be it purely for sex. If during lockdown you have decided you want something more from your sex life, and you’re considering exploring a new kink, good for you! One of the most common kinks is of course, BDSM and in this day and age, there is so much information available online to help you get started, and more importantly, help you keep safe.

Here are three things you need to consider when starting your BDSM journey;

Do Your Research

Before making any informed decision you do your research, right? Well undertaking a journey into BDSM should be no difference. While you have a whole well of information right at your fingertips, thanks to the internet, you might want to invest in some reading material. Picking up a book might end up being more informative as these have had to go through multiple people before being publish and they’re not someone posting their opinion from behind a screen. While it’s important to keep an open mind when exploring any kink, it’s also important to be wary of the source of information.

Reach Out

Every new beginning starts with that very first step. Once you’ve decided what you’re into, you need to find a way to connect. Searching for your particular kink may be as simple as looking for a mistress near me or a dominatrix near me. These are great if you want to connect with someone local and dive right in, some people do just have that kind of confidence. If that isn’t you, you could join a forum and ask questions that may have come from any research you have done. And from there you could reach out to others embarking on a similar journey.

Stay Safe

Like with any form of dating, the most important thing to consider is your own safety. At the end of the day, there is a whole program on TV dedicated to people hiding behind their digital personas and unfortunately, the BDSM world is even more high stakes than usual. While for the most part, BDSM is a safe and respectful sexual kink, it can sadly attract less than savoury characters. Make sure you keep your personal details hidden, use discreet photos and ensure you engage through a phone call, or even better video call before even considering meeting. On your first meet make sure it’s in public and you keep in touch with friends. And most importantly, don’t agree to anything you’re no comfortable with.

Entering into the world of BDSM is fun and exciting, once you’ve made all the considerations and put your own personal boundaries in place.